I still remember when I heard this phrase for the first time - and it blew my mind.
I was in my twenties.
I had come in for a chiropractic adjustment, but it seemed they didn't have me on the schedule. As I stood at the front desk awkwardly, not sure when I'd be able to come back in, the doctor himself caught a glance at my face from across the room.
With a twinkle in his eye, he casually called out, "Don't worry Amanda, you're doing everything right!"
I know he was only talking about my scheduling skills, but somehow I had heard it on a deeper level. In that moment, it was both a deep balm to my soul, and also too much to take in.
I had to say it several times in my head to try to make sense of it - and I watched my mind fight back against it every time-
I'm doing EVERYTHING right??
(nah, surely not everything!)
I'm doing everything RIGHT??
(come on, not even close!)
I'M doing everything right??
(oh please, who do you think you are?)
Why couldn't I believe this? Why couldn't I take it in?
Why could I hardly even hear the words?
Why couldn't I even think that was possible???
Even at that young point in my life, I had been in personal growth work for several years. And there is a dangerous side to self-help books, programs, even coaching and therapy too (and I say this as a fan and a paying client of ALL of these things). It is possible to receive the message "You're doing it wrong, all wrong," and that you need a bunch of Hard Work to even be acceptable or worthy as a human.
That's where all the personal work in the world can backfire, and that's where I had been living - I was doing all these things (including that chiropractor) in order to "fix" my "broken" or "unacceptable" or "not yet good enough" self.
(Case in point, how many provacative emails have you gotten saying "everything you know about _________ is wrong"?)
It turns out, that is NOT a healthy approach or reason for me to invest energy and resources into myself. That mindset is like an old skool set of training wheels I once needed that now just slows me down.
You are INCREDIBLE, as you ALREADY ARE, and YOU Are Doing Everything Right.
This is my painting about it - and it's your invitation to try on that phrase today and notice any side effects :)
If you are ready to apply the power of this feeling in your finances, and experience personal growth that is all about RECEIVING, allowing, PLAYFULNESS, surprises, ACKNOWLEDGMENT, appreciation, and relaxing into your natural state of Prosperity, Time Abundance, & Support, you may want to check out The Prosperity Team.
We start in May, and we gonna PLAY!
Hit reply and say "I'm curious!" if you'd like to talk more.
PS, don't let the fun stop with you - who in your life needs to hear this phrase today? Hey spouse/kiddo/client/co-worker/boss/friend/sibling, you're doing everything right!
Even though I think of myself as a Conscious Creator, I still sometimes get the doubts...
Especially when the going gets rough, I've found myself thinking things like....
Clearly, the Universe did not see my Vision Board!
Does it really matter what I say or think to myself?
Where the heck is my money already!?!
And you'll get no shame from me for these thoughts jumping in from time to time. The problem occurs when they start to take hold, and we begin to believe them more than our own Power and Abundance.
So sometimes, you just gotta re-prove it to yourself!
Here is one of my favorite games to test yourself TODAY, and just see if your mind really is influencing your income and receiving of money, time, and support...
Ask an "I wonder" question about a money goal... and then DON'T answer it for 24-48 hours. Seriously, just let it linger in your mind and DO NOT ANSWER IT :D
* For example, if your goal is to build your savings, you may ask "I wonder how I could put $300 into savings this month..."
* Or, if you'd like to purchase something, you might say "I wonder how I could receive this item more easily and sooner than expected...."
* Maybe you're wanting to pay off a bill. So you could ask, "I wonder how I'll feel when this bill is handled and behind me..."
* What is YOUR "I wonder" question for YOUR goal?
Now the real key is to Stay Curious, and NOT let your mind jump to answer in its habitual ways. You already know what that creates, been there, done that. This game is a chance to test out whether there are NEW options, shyly lingering just behind your typical go-to answers.
The more relaxed, easy, gentle ways of receiving are sometimes like the wallflowers at a party - they won't sidle up to you and start a convo, but if you slow down a beat and listen, they may be the most interesting people there!
I recently used this game on a particularly busy day, where I had already been running low on energy. I knew I needed to recharge with some Me Time, but the schedule was NOT looking good... kids and husbands to wrangle and plenty of work to do.
I decided to ask anyway - "I wonder how I could find some Me Time today..." and just let that simmer in the back of my mind. I tended to my meetings and commitments, and everytime I felt run down, I just re-asked the question: "How can I enjoy some Me Time today?"
Eventually, that question worked its magic. I suddenly realized how I could rearrange some help and possibly even go get my nails done! Even before I fully believed it, I called and made the appointment, knowing I may have to cancel.
Then I just kept asking, kept wondering, and sure enough - look what happened that afternoon!
If I had not opened up to curiosity, or had forced myself to get all my work done first, that day would have continued to drain me. Instead, I created a not-so-minor-miracle, and got back to my TIME ABUNDANCE!
So, what is the "I wonder" question for YOUR goal?
Try it out today!
Take note if it changes your thoughts or actions. If so, then your mindset has everything to do with your money flow. Not everyone can just change their mind and make more money, but you.... well, you've got the magic!
If you like this game, and you'd like to try 22 more Money Mindset Games, you may be interested in joining a Prosperity Game or the TEAM at some point!
PS, By popular demand, I am putting together a group of manifestors who LOVE to stay in their abundance by playing simple-yet-profound games like this one. We're joining forces, pooling our momentum, and cheering each other on - we want to HAVE FUN with making money, and take all the heaviness out of it for good :)
For more info on that, click here, we begin soon!
Of all the new questions I asked myself in those dark moments - with so little energy, time, and bandwidth left - the deepest question I had to face was:
Can I OWN my own VALUE and RECEIVE the same amount of love, energy, and support that I'm giving?
The sweet sweet CRACK of responsible adulthood.
Oh sure, they feel so good in the moment.
You're flying high on all that CONTROL... all that CERTAINTY....
All those beautiful SOLUTIONS you think up....
Details just neatly dropping into their tidy little places.... oh yeah!!!
Everyone happily playing their part, and you can see the results just
All those years ago, when I stared down those thought-monsters living in my head,
and I let the powers beyond my control swoop in (in the form of a friend calling me out of the blue), I could not have predicted how valuable those Money Mindset Muscles would become.
The money itself was gone of course -in and out like the Colorado snow. Just when you think it's more than you've ever seen at once, POOF! The sun comes out and makes you wonder if it even really happened.
And speaking of snow, that is one of the reasons I would soon need
Ok, so I'm ALL IN... now what??
After making the decision to keep doing my work, come what may, I still had no idea how I was going to pay my $2200 medical bill, let alone in 3 weeks time.
Well, guess what.
The answer didn't come from me. It came through a phone call as I was sitting in
As I shared yesterday, there was a time in my business where things went from hanging by a thread to IMMINENT THREAT financially. At least that's how it felt to me.
I was already eating ramen and day-old bread, so when the need for additional money came along (and a couple thousand at that), I had nowhere to cut expenses or dip into savings.
You may not know this, but
A year into my business, I was just barely making ends meet each month. I was thrilled to be living out on my own, teaching a few small classes in my little one-bedroom apartment, but I was worried about money every single day.
I was constantly comparing the timing of my bills to when a client was going to pay - if a client didn't bring their check to class, I was screwed.
My biggest money breakthrough at the time was the day I realized that
Hi, I'm Amanda
And I like sticky subjects!